I want *more*
From time to connection, it's all there for the taking. I just need to give it to myself first.
How many times have you thought or said the following words out loud ‘I just want…more’? Okay, now, how often do you sit and really consider what that *more* looks like for you and you alone?
I’ve done this very thing lately and it surprised me.
I wrote down the obvious things to begin with:
More time
More connection in the relationships I have
More patience with my kids
But then others started coming to mind and I realised one thing: I can’t expect to receive these things if I don’t first practice them myself.
I’ll give you an example. It was my friend’s birthday over the weekend and we’ve got drinks booked in soon. She’s actually a relatively new friend and we’ve not spent too much time together so far, but our little one’s are best friends at school and from the few times we’ve hung out so far, we really get along.
Something I really want is good, strong friendships in my life. I want people who I consider best friends, who love spending time with me AND my family, and with whom we can create those kind of memories where you look back and say ‘wow, can you believe we’ve been friends for over 20 years?!’.
With said new friend’s birthday coming up I knew I wanted to get her a gift. I could have gotten her some chocolates, a card and done the standard ‘minding’ gifting route; but I want those great friendships, right? So instead I told myself the following…
‘To have great friends, you have to be a great friend’.
I know that being a ‘great friend’ isn’t about buying someone’s connection, but I knew I wanted to get her something thoughtful. Something a bit more than the bog-standard box of choccies and card with two words written inside.
My point with all of this is to remind both of us (you and I, dear reader), that if we want to receive something into our lives, we have to first give it out into the world first. Or sometimes, as the case may be, give it to ourselves and us alone first - like love, kindness, compassion, forgiveness.
So let me ask you one more time.
What do you want more of in your life right now?
Can you make a list of 3 ways you could start giving that to yourself and/or others this week?
Let me know what you’re setting your intentions on in the comments, or join my paid chat and let me know so we can go through it together!
Maria x